Lately I’ve been thinking more and more about you because your 4th birthday is just around the corner. Your daddy and I hope that one day when you read this you will fully grasp how much we prayed for you. Six years into our marriage and our prayers were answered. The wait was worth it because it took God some time to make the most precious, loving, kind-hearted and happiest boy to bless us with. Know that although we spoil you a little there are things in life that don’t come easy. We work hard to give you almost anything your heart desires, but as you get older and understand better you better believe that you will need to earn things in life.
The road to getting blessed by you was not easy. Daddy and I went through many tribulations and they told us we could never be parents unless we did IVF (I know you will research what this is, but know that it is against our Faith). Practically, the doctors told us that they were the only ones that can help and as good Catholics we refused that choice because our solution was not a man of science. We had other options. To adopt or keep praying. Although we were devastated to hear those news, we believe that God would make us parents someday.
A few months after visiting that doctor or prayers were answered. You were conceived by love and Faith. It took you over 9 months to come into this world. You were too cozy inside my womb. Even upon the day of your most anticipated arrival you didn’t want to come out. You had a massive crowd of family and friends of ours waiting to meet you. You weighed 6lbs and you were 23 inches long! I knew the moment you came out that you were a gift and that you were special. Mommy and Daddy prayed the rosary every day from the moment you were conceived. You came to this world to do great things. You are already a man of God. In time things will get hard and you will go through your own hard times, but if it is one thing you take from reading this is that we must always pray for what we want and have the Faith in God that it will happen. Not in our time but in His time.
For the past almost 4 years your daddy and I have watched you grow, learn and flourish. You have made us the happiest ever. You are thoughtful, smart, loving, kind-hearted, handsome and an overall joy to have around. On your birthday not only do we celebrate you, but we thank God and Mary for you. We throw a huge celebration for life!!! How can we not thank God for you? All we wish and pray for everyday is that you are healthy, safe, know and learn more about your creator, learn to fear God, love our Mother Mary, be an example of good and kindness, be obedient, say your prayers, do great in school and have fun living this life. Remember that the middle is what matters. You must not look back or think what if? Why didn’t I do this? What if the future was like this? Will I ever accomplish this? What you do in the present is what matters. The rest will come in time, your questions will be answered and your dreams and aspirations will come true if you work for them. Nothing is free in life or easy.
Know that we love you so much! We are blessed beyond expectations. You are our greatest gift! On June 11th you will reach another milestone and we will celebrate you and life! We will pray over you, dedicate a rosary for you, go to Mass and thank God for you and lavish you with love!!! Happy early birthday my son.
As a parent we want the best for our children. We know we do for Frankie. That is why it is essential that we lead by example. There are things that they might not like, not understand and things they do enjoy, but we must enforce it no matter what. We know at times it is tough even for us adults!
There might be some of you out the reading this who are not Catholic like us, or from a different denomination, religion or even orientation, but we can all relate that if it is kindness you show, your child will mimic that. If it is love, then love they’ll be portraying. If it’s telling, fighting and other horrible habits you show them then they will think it is normal.
We teach Frankie what we think is right as HIS parents. In our household we don’t eat until we pray. We don’t go to bed until we pray. We attend Mass every Sunday. Even while on vacation. Sure there has been times that we missed a Sunday or two in his whole 3 years of life and we make those decisions that later on we regret. We all slip and fall at times and what we have shown him is that we made a mistake, why it isn’t right and what we can do to make it right. We are almost sure that he might not fully understand, but we have planted that seed. Now it is our job to water it and it WILL blossom. Our Faith tells us it will.
This past Sunday for mother’s day we explained to Frankie that it was a day to honor the moms. He as a child felt joy because he thought that like any celebration we get to do fun things. We told him that first we go to church to visit Jesus and thank him for everything that happened and didn’t happen for that week. When he is reluctant about going we always remind him that it is just one hour that we get to spend with Jesus during the whole week. We were eating breakfast when he asked that if it was mother’s day then we should give my flowers to Mary. My husband sent tulips to my job earlier that week and Frankie thought it would be a great idea if we took them to Mary. I cut 6 tulips out if the arrangement and clustered them together and tied them with some ribbon. 🎀 He took them that morning before Mass to the statue of the Rosa Mystica. He loves that Mary and prays to her every week. He loves to take his coins, he puts them in and says a prayer.
As his parents these are the few things that make us proud because we know that we are skiing something right. Little by little we lead by example and we know it isn’t easy but it is what God wants.
Below are a few of the moments we have captured our son honoring our mother.
This morning I woke up at 4:30am to celebrate with our Filipino community. The Filipino Catholics celebrate Easter Sunday with ‘Salubong’. It is a reenactment of the Biblical account of the meeting of the Virgin Mary and the resurrected Jesus Christ. It’s a beautiful tradition that is celebrated in the Philippines and I feel blessed to have been a part of it. The Filipino community at our church of St. Bernard is very devoted and it’s tradition to our Faith is one to always be supported. It reminds me so much of the things and other traditions we do in my country of Nicaragua. The people are beautiful, devout, they go all out, yet are simple in their ways. I love that! It comes to show us that we don’t need riches, material things and other things to fulfill the love we have for our Christ. Next year I pray that our son is old enough to wake up by 4am and experience such a beautiful reenactment.